Saturday, 22 February 2014

Frigid is the New Cool

Hi guys! 

I was reading my book on the way to work this week (Dawn O'Porter's 'Paper Aeroplanes') and came across a word I haven't heard in years: 


And suddenly all these memories came rushing back to me about my teenage years. The ages ranging from 14 to 19 aka the stage in our life full of fun, frolicking and firsts (first kiss, first date, first makeup purchase, first alcoholic drink, first time...). 

An era when house parties were 'the thing'. When Snake was as addictive to teens as cocaine to a druggy. When evenings were spent sitting on a park bench drinking Strongbow with friends. When cannabis was legal. When 'emo' was a stage in one's life. When MySpace was cool.When first, second and third base were part of one's everyday vocabulary. When Sunny D was on every supermarket shelf. When witches existed in the form of Sabrina. When cafes were divided by Smoking and Non-Smoking areas. When penny sweets were treats (fruit salads and blackjacks were my fave). When Blue was more than just a colour (Duncan, you'll always have a special place in my heart, even if you are bisexual). When One Direction were just foetus' in their mums tums. Shock horror. 

Weird how one word can lead to so many other thoughts, right? I imagine touring my brain would be an experience rather similar to Stealth at Thorpe Park; fast paced, random and crazy.

Anyway, back to the point. It also got me thinking about the meaning of the word frigid, a term thrown around many times when I was a teen, particularly one I was used to, being the second last to experience my first kiss out of our big girl group of friends. We called ourselves 'The Sheenies' because we all lived in Sheen. Originality at its finest.

Urban dictionary, the source of all knowledge, defines it as 'being afraid of any interaction with the opposite sex' or 'being sexually unresponsibe, pokerfaced to his/her attempts to kiss/hug/have any interaction with you', whilst the Oxford Dictionary defines it as 'very cold in temperature' or 'stiff or formal in behaviour or style'. These all have negative connotations. When I was a teen, it was cool to be easy, to get with any and every boy, to be a slut. There was an immense pressure to be this way or risk being tagged a 'loser' or 'unpretty'. 

However, I feel like there has been a complete change with this and in 2014, it's cool to pick and choose wisely, to have an heir of elegance, to be classy, to not put out for everyone and anyone.

Yep, frigid is the new cool. 

Either that, or I'm just oblivious, old and ignorant as to what the younger generation get up to these days! 

Peace & love from a very nostalgic Nish